New year new me 2

[escapingman]

Let's hope she self sabotage completely! Good luck G, this is starting to look a bit more promising.

[Gettintired76]

I couldn't agree more, I was reading through the text her husband sent her her mom, I actually think my ex wrote it pretending to be him, the wording was exact phrasing that she has used on me. I've studied linguistics and speech patterns, it's amazing what you can catch when you study how some talks lol. And and persons texting style can be a dead giveaway too.

[escapingman]

I couldn't agree more, I was reading through the text her husband sent her her mom, I actually think my ex wrote it pretending to be him, the wording was exact phrasing that she has used on me. I've studied linguistics and speech patterns, it's amazing what you can catch when you study how some talks lol. And and persons texting style can be a dead giveaway too.

My uBPD/NPDw does that, she sends me texts pretending to me my daughter but using the exact words and phrases as she would user when she text me from her own phone. They really don't understand.

[Gettintired76]

Couldn't agree more

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Your ex asked about child support, you said.

Is there a legal agreement for child support or is she just squeezing you?

If legal, which child or children is it for?

If it's your son, you said you have 50/50 legal custody. (That you are not getting).

If it's your daughters, you have no custody agreement in place for them.

[Gettintired76]

I finished my obligation in child support for my son there is no agreement for my daughters. So technically right now there aren't any agreement s on any of them.

[Gettintired76]

Omg I'm excited for Thursday but I'm scared as hell to. I don't know which way to go lol. I'll let everyone know how it went.

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Excited and scared is the logical way to feel!! I hope it's a turning point for something much better.

[Gettintired76]

Me too square, is it wrong of me to hope the judge is black because of my ex's hubby's racist rant at her mother? LoL I don't particularly think it's going to go over very well anyway.

[hhaw]

G:

How do you not yet know who the Judge assigned to the case is? 

[Gettintired76]

I haven't been given squat, the only reason I even know there is a hearing is because I personally called the GAL, my ex nor anybody else has told me anything. All I know is that the judge is a woman. That's it.

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Let's hope that either way, the judge does not appreciate racist statements, or child abuse, or child neglect.

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Good luck! I hope to hear a great update tomorrow night!

[Gettintired76]

The State took legal custody of my daughter today, her mother still has physical custody of her, she has one more chance and they take her completely

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I wanted more, but that's progress.

I wonder why they didn't at least order 50% physical custody for you.

It seems like they are going on the assumption she has 100% custody when there really isn't any agreement giving her that.

[Gettintired76]

In her county she has them believing he's the custodial father so they wouldn't even hardly speak to me

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I guess I don't understand how, with you being the father (and so named on the birth certficate), and no legal agreement nullifying your access, how she can "convince" anyone that you have no custody. And it's a legal matter, not just something she can BS on.

Perhaps it's just a state law I'm not familiar with, that fathers have zero claim unless married to the mother (or custody secured in the court).

You need to find out asap what you can do to receive custody should your ex lose it. Because at this rate we're looking at foster care, and you want to avoid that if at all possible.

I mean, I know you are seeking custody, but what if in one month she loses it. I don't know anything, but could you right now be going through the process of being approved as a foster care provider yourself?

My DD's best friend was raised by her grandmother when CPS took her away from her parents. The grandmother had to be approved by CPS or something.

So I don't know anything but this is where my mind is going.

Or how close are you to petitioning for custody?

[Gettintired76]

She claims she had a meeting with CPS after the hearing and they had done a video interview with Autumn yesterday and she made allegations against me and my sister but they wouldn't tell her what, just that they advised her to keep the kids away from until the investigation is over. What investigation I don't know.

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She claimed that your DD had made allegations?

I'm guessing your ex's story is way overblown.

But you urgently need to get lined up for custody. From what you're telling me, even if your ex loses custody, you're not on the list.

Anyone you can contact, the GAL, the CPS contact, anyone, make sure they know you seek custody and ask what you need to do.

And did the meeting with the custody counselor on Monday yield anything?

[Gettintired76]

She missed the appointment Monday then I missed the reschedule today. The judge told they set a the first meeting in an emergency but they didn't have my contact number which is funny because CPS and the school both have my number and address.The GAL and the court have my number and address now, so no more excuses. My ex swears CPS sat and told her everything I said and added some stuff (I never once told them they were useless). She did know everything I told them tho although I don't think I said anything about drugs. She claims they had a good laugh at me ( funny how that seems to be with everyone she meets). That's what she always says to try to devalue me or shut me down.